As in any new relationship it takes time for the two new partners to get to know each others ways and little foibles. It is just the same when you bring a new cat into your home. It is a mistake to believe that all cats are the same. This is not true each is an individual in its own right and has its own ways and manners.
It is important that you both get to know each other as quickly as possible. Because a cat cannot tell you what it feels or finds annoying you will have to learn to read the signs. Some cats are quite solitary creatures but most will want to spend some time with you on a regular basis for some tender loving care. However, there can be a limit to the amount of fussing some cats will take.
If you accept the fact that all cats believe in their ultimate superiority over all other creatures including humans you will be well on your way to understanding your pet. They may want a tickle and a bit of a fuss but only on their terms. If they are getting over stimulated or simply bored they will let you know by swishing their tail, pricking back their ears, a stiffening of their bodies or even taking a bite or a swipe at you.
If you want loyalty from a pet then you would be better off getting a dog, cats are not big into loyalty. There is a saying that “dogs have masters and cats have servants” and this is very true. In return for providing a home, warmth and regular food a cat will come and sit on your lap, allow you to play with it and even occasionally show signs of affection but only if it feels like it.
Cats are remarkably impatient animals and if you do not open the door for them or put their food down quickly enough they will let you know. My cat will usually circle me, give the occasional meow and generally make a pain of himself until I do what he wants.
Of course this may sound a bit weak and pathetic on my part but that is what happens when you get a cat. You have this vague idea that you will train it so that it will fit into your home and life style but you realise that the truth is that it is the cat who is training you.